It is neither a lofty degree of intelligence, nor imagination, nor both together that go into the making of genius. Love, love, love. That is the soul of genius. ~ Mozart
I recently wrote a post called Trust Love where I made a vow to never judge a woman’s birth, or tell her to Trust Birth, but rather to uncover and know the mysteries of love.
It’s Valentine’s Day and I thought this might be a good time to check in with my heart and ask it, What do I know so far on this journey of knowing and trusting love, of letting the Soft Animal of my body love what it loves, of helping mothers, families and midwives who want access to their instinctual selves despite our culture of birth fear.
If you’re a mother, then you know the visceral craving for love, and its demand on you. It is the thing you need in order to really care for your children and embrace motherhood. And yet, it can be hard to lay one’s finger on it and articulate exactly what it is one needs so desperately, to know what to concretely ask for or offer.
If you’re a midwife you know that natural oxytocin is the hormone responsible for smooth effective and ecstatic labor. It is the hormone that prevents complications. We are told that oxytocin is a very special hormone, the molecule of love. But what exactly does that mean?
If we are to recover our ancestral knowing of birth and motherhood, of natural oxytocin, we as women, mothers, and midwives, need to make the knowing, and understanding of LOVE, the very center of our spiritual and midwifery practice.
Here is my first shot at articulating a concrete list of love in practice. It is not exhaustive, but it is based on my training in traditional midwifery and experience working with undisturbed and unassisted birth, resolving trauma, and recovering LOVE.
These are 10 kinds of love I have discovered so far. Or at least these are the ones coming to me here and now on this Valentine’s Eve. Do you know more? Share them in the comments.