Teach Your Daughters Wailing :: the power of mourning women

It is Winter. The waters are frozen. The trees are bare. The heart is still as the season of death descends and the sound of grief echoes in the quiet sleeping garden of the soul. Winter is characterized by water, the healing water of tears. We invite the ancestors in the Fall and in the Winter we allow our grief to swell and emerge. Not just any tears, but the sacred tears of measured grief offered to the ancestors once and for all. This is the essential lesson of the [...]

2018-03-22T20:37:19+00:00

Inner Peace and the Wisdom of the Pause :: what I learned from French parenting

This week has been a strange week. Mid week I had a sort of seizure of sadness that had such a tug I really couldn't resist it. You see, about two weeks ago I quit drinking caffeine. Caffeine and I have had a rocky relationship. It's clearly not good for me and I don't mean the kind of not-good where I know I shouldn't have it because of some research study or health guru's proclamation. No, it's the kind of thing where within hours of ingesting the stuff a slew [...]

2018-03-22T15:57:35+00:00

Natural Oxytocin, or 10 Kinds of LOVE for Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum

It is neither a lofty degree of intelligence, nor imagination, nor both together that go into the making of genius. Love, love, love. That is the soul of genius. ~ Mozart I recently wrote a post called Trust Love where I made a vow to never judge a woman’s birth, or tell her to Trust Birth, but rather to uncover and know the mysteries of love. It’s Valentine’s Day and I thought this might be a good time to check in with my heart and ask it, What do I [...]

2018-03-22T20:37:22+00:00

How do I talk to my children about death? part 2

There you are in the car . . . Grandma has passed away and you are on your way to her house to gather with family, wash her body, prepare her for vigil. Your 5 year old asks you: How did grandma die? You think back to last week's post. You have a few immediate thoughts: Ok, so I get it that its a good thing to be open with my children about death but what do I actually SAY? I mean, would I say uncle Bob was murdered or [...]

2018-03-22T20:37:23+00:00

How do I talk to my children about death?

Q: How do I talk to my kids about death? I mean how do I even talk to myself about death - especially in front of others? What if I hurt my children by talking about death? or curse them, or frighten them? A: We finally left the Humane Society with a god, I mean, doG. There have been so many empty handed visits in the last few months - since we got the land in White Salmon. We named her that evening: Luna Waapatui (first came Waapatui and then [...]

2018-03-22T20:37:24+00:00

New Year Notoriety :: bad is the new good

Forget Safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious. - Rumi Reading this the other night, I felt a massive weight lift from my shoulders. Here we are entering the New Year, starting the yearly bout of Mercury Retrograde and I am feeling the tug-of-war feeling I get every year at this time. I am acutely aware of all that I am not, all the ways I fail to fit in, be liked, look good and succeed, and again this year, like all years, I have [...]

2018-03-22T20:37:26+00:00

Ring in the Light

Here we are at the magical moment of Winter Solstice, having delved deeply into darkness, and the mysteries of light keeping. Myths & traditions from around the world center on carrying, keeping, guarding, and listening to, the light during times of darkness, and also of generosity, giving gifts and keeping warm. This is all a metaphor for keeping our own inner light alive during cyclical personal and cultural dark nights of the soul. Through the traditions of candle making, lantern walks, hearth building and gift giving, we find metaphors that [...]

2018-03-22T20:37:28+00:00
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